Finding Joy in an Often Joyless Situation

People with disabilities and diseases undoubtedly have a rough lot in life. For some, such as those with Autism Spectrum Disorder, it can be even rougher. Autism is not like the common cold or the flu, which both have virtually the same symptoms with each case. Those on the spectrum have to deal with a variety of different issues. No two cases are the same. It is not a one size fits all experience.

“Each case is unique. When I was learning about autism, the very first thing we learned is that when you know one person with autism, you know one person with autism.” Dr. Vidya Munandar, an associate professor who specializes in autism, said.

And yet, in spite of the difficulties that come with being on the spectrum, there are some that try to manage the best of it. And they actually manage to succeed quite beautifully. While autism can come with its own set of problems, a great many people on the spectrum are comfortable with their lives. Some may ask how this is possible, given the extreme complexities of autism. But it is, in fact, those complexities that make it more tolerable for some.

Since no two cases are the same, no two people are going to feel exactly the same about it. Some believe that the power of a positive attitude can get them past any difficulties their condition might present to them in life. Others simply don’t care. They see their diagnosis as just another random thing about them and don’t pay it much mind.

“I mean, I’m happy with my life. I’m currently single, but I’m taking my time. I have a good job. I love my life.” Parker Johnson said.

Another thing that may cause people on the spectrum less concern than those with certain other conditions is cultural experiences. For example, in the United Kingdom, those on the spectrum are viewed differently than those in the United States. Dr. Munandar recalled one former student that was on the spectrum who went to study in England.

“She was diagnosed with autism as an adult. So she was not diagnosed as a child, actually. She said that depending on what location or country that she’s in, sometimes she feels less autistic. For example, she lived in London for a year, and because of the cultural expectations there, or the behavioral expectations there, are different than midwestern USA, she feels that her autistic traits are not as visible to the people around her. I just find that powerful. So it's also the culture, not just diagnosis.” Dr. Munandar said.

Regardless of who they are or where they came from, people on the spectrum who have made peace with their diagnosis tend to find happiness in other areas of their lives as well. And they are even able to extend this happiness to others on the spectrum or afflicted with other conditions.

“I mean, people are just regular people. I support those that have other disabilities like Down Syndrome or ADHD. And I also become friends with other people who have disabilities like me.” Johnson said.